Born January 28th 1960, danced with a troupe in
front of 2,000 people and Murray Cashís band at the Pavilion in
Hemel Hempstead when I was 14. Married and bought my first
property at the age of 17! Had a baby daughter at the age of
18. Started my own business at 28, a recruitment agency which
is still running today having sold it once! Divorced at 30,
baby son with my new partner at 32 and married again at 38.
Written a book at 42, published poetry and entered in to Poet of the
Year Symposium in Hollywood at 43. Now at the tender age of
45, Iím achieving a childhood dream of owning my own horse and
competing. Who says life is about money and not memories!
Who says I am impulsive Ė Iím just grabbing life with both hands and
making the most of this treasured journey.
The Road to Flame!
Well, this is my story. Iím writing
it to remind myself why I have travelled along this road and the
journey it took to get us here. A kind of diary if you like of
my personal motivation, determination and childhood ambition
realised. Flame is my new family member; she is a 10year old
Welsh/Thoroughbred Palomino mare that I have just bought after much
searching and against all the wishes of my friends and family.
Not least my husband who is now refusing to talk to me about her or
anything I want to do with her. He is also trying to put
obstacles in the way of me spending time with her. So, let me
begin by talking to you about me! I am a 44 year old mother of two,
my daughter is 26 and still at home (for now anyway and Iím quite
pleased on the one hand, but feel she needs her own place now) and
my son who is 12 and not at all interested in horses (heavily
influenced by his father to be quite rude about my new hobby).
I have run my own business, a recruitment
agency for the last 16 years, supported my second husband
through various job redundancies and his extremely hostile
ex-wife and son and daughter, kept a roof over our heads and
successfully sued a solicitor for negligence and gained us much
financial stability. So, yes I feel that I need my own space now
to do the things that I could not do when I was younger and when
I was concentrating on building up my home and finances to be
able to do just this now. However, most of my! friends and
family have been trying to put me off this idea since I started
returning to riding earlier this year. They think that Iím going
to need a small mortgage to keep a horse, will fall off and
break my back, neck and anything else. My attitude is that Iíll
give us a year, see how we go and if it is beyond me and Flame,
then Iíll have to think again and let her go to a home that can
do her justice. To deny me this pleasure is to not really
understand me and the need to keep occupied with a challenge.
Weíll have to prove everyone wrong.
During a brief winter break watching the
Stars in Devon, I took the opportunity to visit
Kate Mably. Kate
invited me down to ride one of her Lusitano horses called
was fantastic if a little too clever! He is very springy
in canter, but lovely. A bottle of Champagne rested on me
being able to do flying lead changes and well, let's just say
that Kate won that one!!!! I thoroughly enjoyed my visit,
it helped me to focus on what I need to be achieving. I
will be visiting Kate again in April, hopefully, and can
recommend her for a no nonsense uplifting lesson.
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